My Mom encouraged me to make New Year Resolutions, to set targets for what I wanted to achieve and sometimes to address habits that I did not want to take forward into the New Year. This was my Mom’s Goal Setting 101 class – make a resolution and get it done for the year.
This worked for me for a long time, because I had so many things to achieve. The resolutions covered material and intangibles, things that the world said that I needed to be, to acquire, to change, to ensure that I was a success. It was easy to do this when the word success meant something. All I had to do was follow the carefully drawn out map by all the persons who had gone before and apply the formula – go to school, get a degree, do a professional qualification, travel, do this and then do that.
As I question the concept of success, my to-do list becomes less and less. My wants and needs have been reexamined and put into perspective. I did not truly want that first job, did I really need it? As a result, I have not made any resolutions for a long time. Since I truly believe that I am the best Maxine with zero wants and needs to be successful, what do I need a resolution for?
Since I have graduated from the to-do list, I am tweaking my Mom’s lessons and adopting the fundamentals of the New Year Resolution. Nah, I am not making promises, I am declaring 2014 as the year of resolution.
Save for the musical and medical definitions, resolution (Oxford Dictionary) means
1) Quality of being resolute – determined, unwavering
2) Firm decision – formal expressing of opinion/ intention agreed on by a legislative body
3) Action of solving a problem or dispute
My 2014 Resolution is to:
- Be determined and unwavering in my life purpose and choices.
- Express my opinions and intentions firmly and clearly so that there is no doubt.
- Solve problems and disputes as and when they occur.
Tell me what your resolutions are and what lies behind them.