Last week I led a group through a Visioning exercise. At the end, I asked “What’s the use of a personal vision?” The group answered that personal vision can provide motivation and hope while serving as an internal guiding light. A personal vision can be used to make decisions, prioritize the use of time, inform the actions taken and determine what leads will be followed. As the group wound down its contributions one voice piped up, “A personal vision can hurt.”
I was intrigued because I have never associated hurt with personal vision. I said, “Tell me more,” and other voices joined in the conversation.
Having a personal vision can
- Make you lose your family and friends
- Be frustrating when you don’t know how to get to it
- Make it difficult to exist in the present time
- Make you lose hope when you can’t see it coming through.
- Cause you to lose patience with your current life
- Make you wish that you never thought about it.
- Be too big
I was grateful that the group shared these insights – I now had a new way to look at the resistance some persons have around personal vision and why some may refuse to develop one. I was left with empathy for persons who have not yet defined their personal vision – maybe they cannot yet see beyond the hurt or do not know how to mitigate the hurt or maybe they are afraid that when the personal vision coin is tossed the hurt faces them and the help lies in the dust.
I left that session with renewed commitment to support my clients to trade the hurt in for help.
And what about you, does your personal vision help or hurt? Tell me more