Feedback from a reader “Maxine, I read your piece on personal vision, it’s one of the most painful things when your vision is way ahead of the people around you. I liken it to being in an abusive relationship.”
When I read the note I felt great compassion for the reader. I admired the courage it took to write it and am grateful that the reader spoke for many who have not written.
When I was writing my first book – Change or Die – I was told that it was a “rich girl project.” Many questioned why I was writing and how much money it would make. Not everyone understood that the book was part of my vision and money was not part of the equation.
Now two books later and seeing my vision unfold in different ways I can share that vision-help outweighs the hurt. Vision- hurt is real and not to be downplayed, but it is not a reason to stop.
These are some of the things that helped me to increase the Vision-help and reduce the Vision-hurt.
- Chunk it down – How do you eat a loaf of bread? One slice at a time. A vision can be overwhelming since it is big. Break it down into small manageable actions and do one small thing at a time.
- Acknowledge your fear – If it wasn’t scary, and a lump did not form in your throat when you first thought about it then it’s probably not your vision. Vision will change your life so it’s natural to be afraid. Embrace the fear, get close to it and name it. Get a little box and make it fear’s home. Whenever it escapes the box, gather it up and put it back in.
- Stand in your love ones’ shoes – Your vision will influence the decisions that you make and you will be different – your thoughts and actions have changed. Reassure your loved ones that your core values remain the same. Be transparent, share motives and intentions behind your actions. If you want these relationships then share what’s in your vision for them. Make them a part of it, and keep the love alive.
- Use your discretion. You know exactly which of your friends and family members will support or deride your vision. Share your vision with persons who have the ability and the mindset to understand what it means, who can support or assist you.
- Protect your vision – Scientists test ideas in labs, conducting myriad of experiments, perfecting prototypes before announcing their discoveries to the world. You can adopt the same approach. Nurture and grow your vision, before you share with others.
- Remember your past – Have you ever achieved something that others did not support/ approve of or seemed impossible? What were the qualities that you displayed then? How can those qualities help you now? What did you tell yourself in the face of negativity? Keep these examples with you and make them your mantra. Use them to remind yourself that you have what it takes to achieve what you want.
- You are not a mover/ shaker – You have never completed a task, you procastinate and give up easily. Yet you have a vision and you want to achieve it. You get to decide if your past actions will determine your future and if your vision is worth getting off your butt. Vision has a pull of its own, once you are excited you will move towards it. If you need a boost then see 10
- Steel yourself – If this is what you want then accept that there will be help and hurt. Feel all the emotions of the journey – the hurt, the sadness, the joy, the bliss, the anger. Do not suppress your feelings because they each carry messages of what you need to pay attention to.
- Call on your Higher Power – If you believe in the Universe, God, or some named or unnamed deity or Power, call on him/ her/ them/ it for help. Have faith that your vision is as destined and move with confidence that you are well supported.
- Get a coach – Coaches provide Vision help. I have helped clients discover, develop, and protect visions. I have clients who pop up after two years and say, “I need a session.” They come to me when they are rocked by an event or the fallout from a loved one and stay with me until they get back on track.
It is going to be an interesting ride, like none other before, and it’s going to be good.
Which of these 10 points will provide Vision- help when next you experience Vision hurt?
Maxine Attong is the author of two business books – Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual and Lead your Team to Win. She is a Keynote Speaker, Executive Coach, Organisational Development consultant and of course an Accountant.