Feedback from AR – I have found that the real challenge can be trying to discern just who will support your vision – your fourth point “Use your discretion”-. I have always been surprised by the reactions of various persons I thought I knew well when my vision is shared…part of the process is bracing for those surprises.
Using your discretion is one way to help your vision. There are people in our circles who support us, as long as we maintain the status quo. Your vision is most likely going to disrupt the norm.
Before you share your vision, think about the people in your circle. Who embraces new ideas? Who has been doing the same thing for the last 10 years? Which ones follow their dreams? Who is stuck or gave up on achieving their dreams?
Chances are the people who have new ideas and big dreams can better hear yours than those who don’t. It’s not how well you know someone or how much they love you that determines their support. It’s their life experiences, the things they have done, the books they have read, and the type of dreams they hold, the things they share with you that will determine their ability to hear and support your vision. Bearing in mind that even persons who may be open to new ideas may balk when first they hear something new.
When I think of introducing my vision to anyone, I think of a meeting between strangers. When you meet someone for the first time you usually don’t bring them home. You meet them in public spaces, get to know them and when trust is built you invite them home – and there are those whom you never sufficiently trust to invite home. Your vision is a stranger, that you want people to trust. When introducing it to anyone, introduce it a little at a time, watch their reaction and let that tell you if you can trust them with a little more. Sometimes it takes a little time for a big idea to sink in. When teachers introduce a new concept, they simplify the lesson, check for learning and as the knowledge base is built up the difficult parts are introduced.
It took you a while to develop, to refine and to confirm your vision. Sure you are excited to share it with the people you love, but what is the reason why? What is your motive for sharing your vision? If you are unsure of why you’re sharing your vision then don’t just yet. If you need to say it out loud, to convince yourself – then use a mirror. If you are boasting, showing how clever you are, or anything that speaks about your ego then you’re not ready to share it. Unless you are sharing your vision for another’s benefit or at the request of another, or you are with a group of people who are also working on their vision then it may be wise to keep it to yourself.
How will you introduce your vision to the people in your life?