I met Barbara Perkins three years ago and was immediately attracted to her. She has a warm aura, a beautiful face and helped me through a rough patch. I was pretty pleased when she invited me to write a chapter for her book – The Magic of Mentoring – Pearls of Wisdom. This book is a compilation of stories by some pretty inspirational men and women who share their experiences of being a mentor or being mentored.
I was happy to pitch in. Though I have never formally had a mentor, I was fortunate enough to meet a brilliant and kind man who spent hours chatting to me, whenever he had the time. From my experience with him I was able to write a chapter. Below are the ten tips that I share about being an effective mentor.
I create a safe space for them to enter and confide in me
I present myself as someone who they can trust and retain this trust by being confidential
I listen to them and ask them questions to bring them to awareness
I do not judge whatever they are saying
I ask, “What is your role in the story you shared?”
I do not take responsibility for the interaction. They call me, and I am available
I ensure that they feel seen and heard at the meetings
I am genuinely interested in their growth and development
I am open to long term relationships with them. (They can come and go as the please)
I explicitly give them permission to discuss personal or work issues when we meet.
Pick up a copy of Pearl of Wisdom today. It’s available on Amazon.
I know that there are things that you want to do in your life, that you have not done yet and today I want to encourage and support you to get them done. When I want to do something, I find comfort in the stories of people who have done the very thing that I want to do and celebrate their achievements.
To celebrate these people I have to move beyond the knee jerk reaction of being jealous. When I feel jealous I am petulantly saying, “I wanted to do that, and I did not. I am annoyed that someone else got it done, before I did.” Jealousy is a great clue, that tells me to get off my butt and start moving. Sometimes jealousy can be heavy, creating a thick fog that makes it hard to move. Our duty is to cut through the jealousy so that we can blow it away and create a path for movement.
What works for me? I joyously celebrate when others achieve the things that I want. Their success is a positive and tangible sign that my dreams are possible and can be achieved. I say to myself “If they can do it, I can do it as well.” While I celebrate with and for them, I create positive energy that gives me the momentum to move forward. The accolades, the praises that they get, encourage me to do more, since it’s just a matter of time when I will be in that place.
In the spirit of practice, I am inviting you to celebrate three female authors from Trinidad and Tobago. I am wonderfully connected to each of them in different ways and I only have positive feelings of joy for them and their works.
I am also inviting all closet writers (male and female) to feed off the energy that they have created and get your books published.
Akosua Dardaine Edwards- Recently launched her second book “Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?’ Her first book is “What Did I learn Today?”
Carolyn Correira – Her first Book is “ Thinking out Loud” and I know that she is about to launch her second book.
Pauline Cooper – Her first publication “Tell Them” is now out.
Who are you celebrating today?
This is Pat Buckley’s review of my book “Lead Your Team To Win”. See other rave reviews on Amazon.com. IF you read the book, please put your thoughts on Amazon.
Maxine Attong promotes the use of “safe spaces” to “Lead Your Team to Win.” A “safe space” is a place where people feel free to express their problems, ideas, and creative thoughts in confidence with no recourse. Maxine shows how the creation of such spaces has had a positive effect in her organization. It has led to success for all: herself, her employees and her organization. She has learned to become a better listener, the employees have learned to divest themselves of their problems and get on with their work, and the firm has become a happier place to work.
Maxine derived many of her thoughts from the works of contemporary executive and life coaches. She relates how “safe spaces” fit into a world that has problem employees, organizational change, and internal corporate politics. Overall, “Lead Your Team To Win” is written in a clear and positive style, even in the few paragraphs that contain information on employees who do not “fit in” and perhaps will do better somewhere else.
How can you make your organisation and safe space?
What other way can I celebrate 60 days of Blogging than to post John Gibbs’ Review of my new book Lead Your Team To Win – Achieve Optimal Performance by Providing a Safe Space for Employees.
John writes a blog – Leading Business Books – at which he reviews the leading business books that he has read and he is from Australia. I do not know him, have never met him and am unsure if I ever will. I consider John more evidence of how connected we all are and that people are always willing to give. John’s review can be found on Amazon and of course on his blog. I have included both links for your reading pleasure.
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