Family or Team – Leadership Paradox

“We are family” sings Sisters Sledge, “Everybody get up and sing.”
While it’s ok to shake and shimmy to this song at the office party, I hope that no company adopts this tune as its theme song.
“We are family.” While I can appreciate that these three words generate warm fuzzy feelings and engender sentiments of belonging and safety, I truly believe that they are inappropriate to describe an organisational setting or culture.
When organisations pull the family card, I wonder “If you are family, then who is the father, who is the mother and who are the children?’
The family narrative plays out in several ways.
Very often there is the paternalistic father figure, who dispenses advice and shares his wisdom whether solicited or not. He knows best, the team unquestioningly follows his lead and does as he says. He gives treats for good behaviour and metes out “fair and just” punishment when orders are not followed.
On several occasions, I have had to explain to team members that I am not a big sister nor am I a mother. There seemed to be an unspoken assumption that because my gender is female, that I should be more understanding, more compliant, more forgiving than my male counterparts. I was expected to have a sixth sense and to display an inordinate amount of caring. If not, then I automatically became a witch. Being female has never made me more intuitive, or clued in or sensitive to what is going on with people. I have had to stop, ask questions and listen empathetically to understand situations. This did not come with my femininity and “No” it’s not a gift. It’s a skill that I have honed.
When leaders adopt paternalistic or maternalistic roles they are setting up co-dependent relationships with team members. Members become dependent, they do not have to think for themselves and as with all dependency relationships they secretly harbour ill feelings towards the parental figures. The parent figures also become burdened, wondering why the teams don’t show initiative or are not proactive. This gives them (leaders) even more reason to keep on parenting.
I want to work with adults, with brilliant, creative adults who take personal responsibility for their actions and can be held accountable. I want to create adult-to-adult relationships in which, each party is responsible for tending to the relationship. I want to work with people who will take a risk and are willing to make mistakes. I do not want to bribe or coerce team members to work. I want to work with people who want to work, because they think that something in the work does something for them. I want to lead a team of adults.

I have had many team members throughout my career, I have never had an office husband or an office wife, no one was a little sister or a father figure to me. I treat team members as adults and simply ask that they do the same to me. Each day I leave my family and go to work with teams.

How do you describe your team and the members-  work family or adults? How is that working for for you? How is it working for the people that you lead?

Maxine Attong is the author of Lead Your Team To Win and Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual.  She is an Executive Coach, an Organisational Development Consultant, and a Certified Accountant.  Maxine works with leaders and teams to create more effective organisations.




Hero vs. Host: Leadership Paradox 1

Margaret Wheatley (2011) writes “For too long, too many of us have been entranced by heroes. Perhaps it’s our desire to be saved, to not have to do the hard work, to rely on someone else to figure things out…And we keep believing it. Somewhere there’s someone who will make it all better. Somewhere, there’s someone who’s visionary, inspiring, brilliant, trustworthy, and we’ll all happily follow him or her. Somewhere…”
Historically leaders have been showcased as heroes, while the teams that they lead are often portrayed as being in awe and waiting with bated breath for their leadership. These depictions have led us to accept the leader as a sagacious and omnipotent (wo)man of mythic proportions. Leaders in turn have been conditioned to believe that they know best and that they know it all. They will take a bullet for the team and solve every problem that is posed. Even when the leader soundly believes in the whys of his leadership, he still thinks that only he knows what to do and expects team members to do as told.
Leaders are seduced by the vision of themselves as heroes. Who does now want to save the day? Who does not want to receive the adulation of team members and congratulations from the persons to whom they report?
Team members in turn, revel in the image of the caped leader who can make it all happen,  day after day. Unknowingly, the team leader and team members set up a co-dependent relationship, in which team members look to the leader for answers. While this appears harmless, it often leads to team members shirking responsibility and having little accountability, especially when things go wrong.
I must admit that it is thrilling to receive the kudos that come with hero worship, and even more thrilling to think of myself as the smartest person in the room; the one with all the answers. But, how are we contributing to the development off staff?
When I developed my definition of leadership I considered two questions. “How does the leader tap into the intelligence of our team members by solving all problems? How do staff take the risks associated with expressing creativity, if we tell them what to do?
For leaders who have an “S” on their chest. the offer is to evoke our alter ego as a Host leader. Think of when you host a party and invite people over, what do you do? You think of the guests and organise the food according to the allergies and preferences. You introduce guests who have similar interests then get out of the way, even as you keep an eye out for the guests who may have one drink too many.  As hosts, we create the environments that ensure that guests have what they need to operate and function. When you host a great party, you can feel it, it’s almost tangible and people leave with pep in their step.  Can you imagine how our team members will respond if as leaders we co-create (wth them)  these type of environments?
It is possible that as leaders we may not know if  or when we are acting as a hero. To help us be aware,  Wheatley advises, “You’re acting as a hero when you believe that if you just work harder, you’ll fix things; that if you just get smarter or learn a new technique, you’ll be able to solve problems for others. You’re acting as a hero if you take on more and more projects and causes and have less time for relationships. You’re playing the hero if you believe that you can save the situation, the person, the world.”

In what aspects of your life do you play hero?
What would it be like if you became a host?

Maxine Attong coaches leaders who want to effectively Lead teams to win. She is the author of Lead Your Team to Win and Change or Die. Maxine is also an OD Consultant , Speaker and Certified Accountant.

The Paradox of Leadership

As I think about my leadership and what it means to me, I am clear that my definition of leadership – the harnessing of the intelligence and creativity with whom I work – offers many a paradox to what I learned. My thoughts on leadership seemed contradictory or opposed to the approaches I read about, heard and saw both as a student and as a team member. And still I believed that what I stumbled upon was true.

I have been taught that leaders lead from the front. All the heroic generals of historical wars are portrayed as fighting on the front lines of the battle. Leaders always save the day – it was Moses who single handedly led his people through the Red Sea to freedom from the Egyptians, And it was the leaders who always have the vision. Steve Jobs is attributed as the creator of Apple and the world has not been the same since.

In many ways my definition stood at odds with these long held and well touted iconic presentations of leadership.
When I think of a harness I envisage a team being led from behind. The leader is not at the front, she is at the back of the team, guiding and influencing direction.

When there is a problem or work issue, I invite team members into the discussion so that we can use our collective creativity to solve problems.  The leader is not the only one whom can solve problems, once team members believe that their ideas are welcome they will happily contribute ideas.

I depend on the collective intelligence of the team to co-create the vision of how they want to work and to state the goals that they are willing to put their energies towards achieving.   When team members are involved in vision creation and goal development,  they have already considered how this will impact on what they want to personally achieve. As a result, they readily perform tasks related to these.

These ideas were contradictory to what I knew and how I led in previous leadership positions. To enact them I had to reject all that I learned and to change quite a few things about myself and my self- beliefs.
I believe that leadership is important and I know the reason why I lead.  As a leader my sole role is to create an environment that allows team members to bring their creativity and intelligence and when these are evident, I need to harness these two elements as we move towards the pursuit of our goals.

What paradoxes do you face with your leadership?

Maxine Attong coaches leaders to be more effective and to lead winning teams.  She is the author of Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual and Lead Your Team to Win.  Maxine is also an Organisational Development Consultant, a Certified Professional Facilitator and a Certified Accountant.



12 Pieces of Clothing for the Emperor

For the last two weeks, I’ve written about “Clothing the Emperor“and I’ve received some interesting feedback. Some readers readily admitted that they were naked or had parts of themselves exposed and are working to cover themselves;  while others are struggling to identify what areas need covering up. The 12 questions adapted from my book “Lead Your Team To Win” provide leaders with clues of what parts of their leadership areas are uncovered. It’s pretty simple.

Read the questions.

Answer them  YES or NO.

IF you’ve answered questions 5 and 7 YES and all the others NO, then these represent areas in which you may be exposed.

Then you can make a choice – Fix it or leave it alone.

  1. Does your team work well together?
  2. Does your team discuss tough issues with you
  3. Do your team members eagerly attend team meetings and one-on-ones with you?
  4. Do your team members express a shared purpose for their work?
  5. Do you tell your staff what work needs to be done?
  6. Do team members generate ideas and come up with new projects?
  7. Do your employees take actions that seem to sabotage their careers?
  8. Do you trust your employees?
  9. Do your employees trust you?
  10. Do your team members think they are performing at optimal levels?
  11. Do you think your team members are performing at optimal levels?
  12. Is your team perceived as a high achieving team by the rest of the organization?

Of course there are many other questions and areas to be covered when thinking about our leadership and how we can improve our leadership. The questions posed are to set a seeker on a path, with the hope that once he or she finds the path it will be easier to seek more questions and have more answers.

What other questions can tell us about our leadership? What do you ask yourself to stay clothed?

Maxine Attong uses her Clothing the Emperor process to assist leaders effectively Lead teams to win. She is the author of Lead Your Team to Win and Change or Die. Maxine is also an OD Consultant , Speaker and Certified Accountant.

The Naked Emperor – Clothing the Emperor Part 2

Wikipedia shares the Hans Christian Anderson Story – The Emperor’s New Clothes, This story is about two weavers who promise an emperor a new suit of clothes that they say is invisible to those who are unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent. When the emperor parades before his subjects in his new clothes, no one dares to say that they don’t see any suit of clothes on him for fear that they will be seen as “unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent”. Finally, a child cries out, “But he isn’t wearing anything at all!”

I can only imagine how the emperor felt when he realised that he was naked. He probably experienced a range of feelings, – embarrassed that he displayed the royal assets for all to see, angry that he was duped by the weavers, hurt that his trusted advisors did not point of the obvious, and at the bottom of it, great sadness that he was the subject of such treatment by a large number of people. He probably was left with the lingering feelings that come with self betrayal, as he ignored what his eyes told him and forced himself to believe what others said.
When I reflected on my leadership, I also experienced a range of emotions. I felt a sense of deep regret over the way that I treated team members and even more ashamed of how I treated myself.
The leaders that I coach confess similar emotions. Their faces and their words reflect the sadness, remorse, anger and deep hurt that these revelations bring.
Over the years that I have worked with leaders I have developed a unique Clothing the Emperor process that involves, among other things, these four steps:

1) Admit that you have a problem – When the young boy shouted, the emperor admitted that he was indeed naked. When he admitted his nakedness, he had choices to make – he could continue to flash his parts or he could get clothed. When we receive feedback from our peers and team members, we need to be open, listen to the feedback and concede that parts of us  if not all) are naked, Then we have a choice to make, remain naked or be clothed.
2) Get rid of the subjects – It may be wonderful for your ego to have people around you who agree to every thing that you say, or who hang on to your every word or tell you that you are the best thing since slice bread. But how does that serve you? Are you to walking around pretending to be what you are not? Are there silent snickers since you refuse to see the obvious? If you are surrounded by people who do not challenge you or who always agree that your idea is the best, then, I suggest that you quickly get rid of them or at the least stop listening to them. These loyal subjects will say anything to feed your ego, while benefitting from the follies of your ego. Switch these out for some truth speakers who will tell you like it is. Also, consider the possibility that the emperor’s court may have been terribly afraid to tell him the truth – who wants to lose a head? If you know that you shout or call other’s names or display inappropriate behaviour when team members disagree with you, then they are not being shady or dishonest by agreeing with all that you say and do – they my be afraid of you.
3) Face the weavers – Those who have duped us can provide us with real insight into our leadership. What about us attracted them? What did they see in us? In the ideal world, the weavers would give us feedback that would provide us with deep and powerful “Ah Ha” moments, but in this world, they most likely will not. Learn from the event, and think about your actions and take responsibility for your part in the charade. The emperor’s ego, his desire to have a coat like no other, and the promise that he could identify persons who were “unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent” led him to deny this eyes and believe the weavers. While accepting responsibility for your part , don’t blame yourself for the actions of others – that has nothing to do with you. I’m sure the emperor was not the first person that the weavers duped.
4) Put on some clothes – At the end of it all, we’ve already stood naked in front of the crowd. We have made the mistakes and suffered the consequences. We know today what we did not know yesterday. We are naked and we need to put some clothes on. So let’s just do it. Get a coat, a dress, a pair of pants, whatever is your fancy and put it on. Have some fun with it, we’ve already suffered. There is a world of clothes to try on – once you don’t return to the weavers. As you wear your clothes, use a 360 degree mirror so that you can see yourself as others see you. Get honest feedback and self reflect on the veracity of the feedback. Breathe in and keep going.

It’s easy for us to laugh at the emperor. But he’s the lucky one, he’s a fairytale character; not so with us – we are real, So dear reader, to help you as you clothe yourself I leave you with a few questions:
What parts of you are naked?
Who are the tailors in your life?
What are you wearing now?

Maxine Attong uses her Clothing the Emperor process to assist leaders to Lead there teams to win. She is the author of Lead Your Team to Win and Change or Die.

Clothing the Emperor

Wikipedia shares the Hans Christian Anderson Story – The Emperor’s New Clothes, This story is about two weavers who promise an emperor a new suit of clothes that they say is invisible to those who are unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent. When the emperor parades before his subjects in his new clothes, no one dares to say that they don’t see any suit of clothes on him for fear that they will be seen as “unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent”. Finally, a child cries out, “But he isn’t wearing anything at all!”

We all have a bit of the Emperor in us. A part of us that we can’t see and that we are not interested in knowing about. We often convince ourselves that others who see these aspects of ourselves “ do not understand” us or are themselves suffering from the same aliments.
These Emperor bits are perilous for the leader, they are our blind spots and negatively impact on our ability to be effective in the role.
When I speak to leaders I often ask:

  • Tell me about your leadership
  • What kind of leader are you?

The answers are not readily given, and often they state that they need some time to think about it. The responses are even more interesting when I ask the follow up question,
“What kind of leader do you want to be?”
They shake their heads, have deep and thoughtful bouts of silence and often confess that they never thought about it.
Now don’t get me wrong, my clients are high performers and goal setters. They are people who have set a vision for their life and are busy getting to it. They know that leadership is important and they have embraced the reasons why they are leaders. Yet, they often have not been deliberate or intentional about their leadership,
As I work with them, to define and enhance their ability to be the leader they want to be, I more or less follow a three step process which I’ve labelled “Clothing the Emperor”. These are simple steps and they are not easy steps.
1) What type of leader are you? This is the hardest of the three steps, since like the emperor we have to admit that we may be displaying characteristics that we prefer remained hidden. There are myriad of tests that indicate personality type, or give an insight to a person’s strengths and weaknesses, and these are a great place to start. To turn the scrutiny up a notch, I ask clients to be brutally honest with themselves and admit what they are like on a daily basis. If we reminisce on how we respond to others, how we treat with responsibility and how we treat ourselves, peers and team members we begin to find clues about what our leadership is like. When we look and listen to ourselves in the various arenas of our lives, we get an even sharper picture. Most of us find this self-review challenging, tiring and embarrassing, so it’s easy for us to not seek this kind of truth. For the brave hearted and the true seekers. I recommend anonymous feedback from team members and peers on what their leadership is really like. This is a way of holding up a 360 degree mirror so that we have a complete view of ourselves and understand how our leadership is perceived. Just as the child cried out that the emperor was naked, so too will the feedback reveal what parts of ourselves are exposed and the behaviours that we are unaware of.
2) Determine the type of leader that you want to be – Most of us believe in the importance of having visions and setting goals, yet, few of us set a vision for the type of leader we want to be. Like the emperor we want to be praised for our clothes, that is, we want to be seen as an effective leader. Unlike the emperor, we need to think about what we want people to say when we put on the new clothes. Think about it. When you strut around in your new clothes what do you want people to say about you? If people were free to shout at you when you parade what do you want to hear? How do you want people to feel when they see you coming down the streets? The answers to these questions tell you to the type of leader that you want to be. When I did this exercise, I became very clear about my leadership, and I knew hat I needed to be a “safe” leader.
3) Go ahead and apply it – So now that you have had the personal insight, gained the feedback, decided what you want to be, you need to do it. Put on your new clothes , take a swirl in them and see if they fit you and more importantly if they suit you. Don’t be afraid to toss it, since the most gorgeous of outfits may be unsuitable for you and your personality. Keep the parts that are a fit and replace the others. Try walking in your new clothes. see how they feel, and see how others respond to them.  Keep wearing them every day. There will be times, when under pressure, with tight deadlines, or under stress, that you will revert to previous ways, and that’s OK. It’s never easy to change habits, so keep your vision and affirmations close at hand to remind you of the way you want to be. Get help, get a coach, and most of all be gentle with yourself when you fail. Failure is part of the process, Remind yourself, that you have been leading in old clothes for x years and now it’s going to take a while for the new clothes to feel like a second skin.

So now you get to decide as you do with every part of your life. “What kind of leader do you want to be?” You get to choose. “How do you want to lead your team?” Your decision, your choice.

Maxine Attong is a “safe” leader. She is the author of Lead Your Team to Win, and Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual, an Executive Coach, an Organisational Development Consultant and a keynote speaker.

3 reasons why we lead

There was a time that I refused to lead.. I left my professional accounting career and worked as a consultant, or as a part-time or full-time contractor. In those roles, I worked with conglomerates, SMEs and multinationals, in the oil & gas, insurance, trade union, financial, hotel and retail sectors. From this external position, i had a wonderful vantage point to observe a wide and large cross section of leaders and teams. During those 11 years, I listened to employees and managers share their frustrations about leading or being led, and I realised that I was part of the problem – because I refused to take up the leadership mantle. And so, I determined to return to leadership within an organisation, so that I could develop and experiment with leadership. From my discussions with other leaders, my experiences and my observations I determined that there are three reasons why people decide to lead.

  1. We want to – Leadership offers the unique opportunity, to fulfil our loftier ambitions. When we decide to lead, we determine to move beyond management even while required to coordinate, organise and plan the work of others. These technical aspects of the job become mundane and are no longer enough to satisfy us; we feel the need to provide something more for our team members and to ask more of ourselves. Leadership allowed me frequent occasions to live my personal vision of “enhancing the lifes of people with whom I make contact”. On a daily basis, I was offered the potential to make a difference, to enhance a life, and to be the person whom I envisioned myself to be.  On a daily basis I could do as I wanted, to lead, that is, to harness the intelligence and creativity of the team.
  2. We need to – As I work with organisations, I notice that there is a dearth of leadership as well as an amazing bunch of talented leaders. I also noticed that not all leaders hold leadership roles on the company’s organisational chart. Yet, I see these men and women happily provide leadership to their teams. Yes, I am talking about the oft dreaded ‘informal’ leader. When asked why do they do it, they reply that, “Someone needs to do something,” or “If I do nothing I will be part of the problem” or they cast aspersions on the status quo. These leaders have identified the intangible qualities that are missing in the organisation and they decide, to provide or be what is missing in the system ( in their own way). They lead because they feel or think there is a void and they take responsibility for filling that void. In so doing, they issue a silent challenge to all of us – Lead from where you are, because the organisation needs you to. What better reason is there?
  3. We are placed in a leadership position – A lot of us never thought about leadership until hired or promoted to such a position. We have all seen it – the high performer or a technical expert who protested being placed in a leadership position.  It is easy for us to blame “management” for not listening, but what then is the onus of the new appointee?   Let’s face it, (s)he could have said “No”, or declined the job or resigned or found another job. Instead, (s)he said yes to all that the new job brings – which includes the perks and leadership. Once the promotion has been accepted then he appointee needs to live up to hi/her part of the bargain and be deliberate in his/ber intention to lead

Now dear reader let’s focus the light on you: Your leadership is important. What is the reason for your leadership? What is your new reason for leadership? Drop me a line, I would love to know.

Maxine Attong is the author of two business books – Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual and Lead your Team to Win.  She is a speaker, coach, Organisational Development consultant and of course an accountant.

3 reasons why Leadership is important

I’ve pondered the question,” Why is leadership important? throughout my career. The answer eluded me until I developed my definition of leadership as the harnessing of the creativity and the intelligence of people – then  I clearly understood why leadership is important.

There are many analogies of the leader – as surgeon, conductor, etc. –  that essentially share the importance of the leaders. (They direct team members, assign tasks according to the level of skill and competency, have a helicopter’s view of the team,  assists members to fulfil their roles and responsibilities, and the list goes on.)

What if we shift focus and narrow in on team members? Why do team members think leadership is important?

When I answer these questions from the team members’ perspective, the reasons become more nuanced, more social and less about business. I believe that when leadership acts as a harness, it  has the potential to allow each team member to be part of something bigger, to tap into members innate desire to be led and to provide members the opportunity to dwell in community. Let me explain:

We want to be part of something bigger – Each of us matters. Each of us wants to matter. While our current situation may not reflect our deepest desire, we each want our life to mean something. This desire for meaning also extends to the hours spent earning our keep. Effective Leadership helps us to link daily tasks, our roles and our responsibilities to a bigger vision, a larger purpose and a grander scheme. Leadership paints a vivid picture, that engenders our belief that what we are doing is important and often critical to the success of the team, of the organisation and of our individual selves. We want leadership to connect us to something beyond the mundane, other than ordinary, and into something bigger.

We want to be led – Why do people “keep up with the Kardashians”? Why do they adopt their fashion, behaviour and mannerisms? Because they want to be led. We’ve seen this before with great political, religious and thought leaders who have commanded large audiences, willing us to be more, and encouraging us to believe that more is possible. We want a voice to speak for us, we want someone to emulate, we want a champion and we want to be part of their world. Effective leadership, satisfies these needs on a regular basis as their image reflects the great in us, and as it acknowledges that we are not sheep.

We want to be in community –  Man has always lived in community – for protection, for food, for spiritual and other reasons. This is an old need of ours – to be of a community, to be in community. We want to belong to a group, that respects us, that we respect, that shares similar beliefs and holds complimentary values. Leadership allows us this sense of community when it corrals the various perspectives, personal agendas, skills and competencies of the team members to achieve a common purpose. Leadership is the glue that holds the various thoughts, opinions and ambitions of the team members together and guides them in a common direction. There is no loss of or squashing of or disrespecting of independent thought, instead there is a tacit agreement that for the common objective to be achieved we will move forward in this direction.

Now dear reader let’s turn the lens on you. Why do you want to be a leader? Why is your leadership important?

P.S. Drop me a line and share you thoughts.

Maxine Attong is the author of two business books – Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual and Lead your Team to Win.  She is a speaker, coach, Organisational Development consultant and of course an accountant.

What is Leadership?

Google the word Leadership and you will receive 805,000,000 results in 0.85 seconds. Do the same on Amazon and it will return over 214,000 results.  Clearly, there is a lot of interest in leadership. Yet, with the many websites, the various books, and the ever increasing amount of leadership gurus and executive coaches, most of us struggle when asked to take up the leadership mantle.
I was one of those leaders who was losing the battle with leadership. To be honest, the books that I read, the gurus that I listened to, could not have helped me. I’m the type of person who never reads the manual, I just plunge right in, believing that I could do it – how hard could it be?
So I had to stumble, fall, try different things, and then step back from it all, review my failures and successes, compare and contrast my behaviour with that of others and then make a grand conclusion about what leadership meant to me.
From my rumination, observations and experiences, I define leadership as the harnessing of the creativity and the intelligence of the people with whom I work.
This definition works well for me because:
It’s not about me – My role is that of leader, but leadership is not about me. It is about the team members and how I work with them to achieve objectives. My focus therefore needs to be external and not internal, my lens wide and not myopic and my embrace inclusive and not exclusive.
Leadership is not about control – There is a lot of imagery of the Leader taking charge – from in front or behind – of the Leader being in control, or of the Leader making decisions. When I take control of everything, I also take responsibility for all that happens, which leaves me overworked, stressed, and extremely tired with a long list of never ending tasks. Honestly, I do not want to be in control.
What’s with the harness – A horse’s harness provides guidance; a harness on a team of horses ensures that the horses stay together and keep pace. Yes, humans are not horses, but you get the idea. Leaders are to work with the personalities, the characteristics and the ambitions of each team member and guide these at an individual and group level to achieve the team’s objectives. No easy task.
People are Intelligent – Neuroscience confirms that adults are not “old dogs”, we can as we age learn new tricks, since the brain regularly produces new neurons. Psychologists have identified as many as 12 different types of intelligence in humans, and have proven that most humans display more than one type of intelligence and can learn other types. Leaders have a lot of raw material to work with. People are like mirrors, If we treat them as intelligent, they will act intelligently. Be warned, lots of patience, reinforcing words and compassion are needed when working with  persons whose intelligence has been battered.
People are creative –  Give team members permission to be creative – have discussions sans judgement, encourage the generation of new ideas and projects and build an atmosphere that engenders lightness, playfulness and risk taking.
Leadership is about you – You, the leader, are an unique individual with unique perspectives and experiences.  These hold real value and are the purest resources that you have to draw upon. Yes take the advice of others, or  read the books, but know that at the end of the day ,you have some decisions to make. What kind of leader do you want to be? How are you going to lead? What are those aspects of your personality that make you either an effective or ineffective leader? What are you going to do about it ?

Once I committed to my definition of leadership, I became more comfortable in my role as leader.  I saw my effectiveness grow (though the behaviour and results of the team). The task no longer felt daunting, I didn’t have to pretend to be someone else or possess qualities that I did not have. I could operate from my perfectly imperfect self and be an effective leader.

Maxine Attong coaches leaders who want to be more effective. Contact her if you want to enhance your leadership. She is the author of Lead Your Team to Win.