The Magic of Mentoring: Pearls of Wisdom

I met Barbara Perkins three years ago and was immediately attracted to her. She has a warm aura, a beautiful face and helped me through a rough patch. I was pretty pleased when she invited me to write a chapter for her book – The Magic of Mentoring – Pearls of Wisdom. This book is a compilation of stories by some pretty inspirational men and women who share their experiences of being a mentor or being mentored.
I was happy to pitch in. Though I have never formally had a mentor, I was fortunate enough to meet a brilliant and kind man who spent hours chatting to me, whenever he had the time. From my experience with him I was able to write a chapter. Below are the ten tips that I share about being an effective mentor.
I create a safe space for them to enter and confide in me
I present myself as someone who they can trust and retain this trust by being confidential
I listen to them and ask them questions to bring them to awareness
I do not judge whatever they are saying
I ask, “What is your role in the story you shared?”
I do not take responsibility for the interaction. They call me, and I am available
I ensure that they feel seen and heard at the meetings
I am genuinely interested in their growth and development
I am open to long term relationships with them. (They can come and go as the please)
I explicitly give them permission to discuss personal or work issues when we meet.

Pick up a copy of Pearl of Wisdom today. It’s available on Amazon.


Pat Buckley – 5 stars for Lead Your Team to Win

This is Pat Buckley’s review of my book “Lead Your Team To Win”. See other rave reviews on IF you read the book, please put your thoughts on Amazon.

Maxine Attong promotes the use of “safe spaces” to “Lead Your Team to Win.” A “safe space” is a place where people feel free to express their problems, ideas, and creative thoughts in confidence with no recourse. Maxine shows how the creation of such spaces has had a positive effect in her organization. It has led to success for all: herself, her employees and her organization. She has learned to become a better listener, the employees have learned to divest themselves of their problems and get on with their work, and the firm has become a happier place to work.
Maxine derived many of her thoughts from the works of contemporary executive and life coaches. She relates how “safe spaces” fit into a world that has problem employees, organizational change, and internal corporate politics. Overall, “Lead Your Team To Win” is written in a clear and positive style, even in the few paragraphs that contain information on employees who do not “fit in” and perhaps will do better somewhere else.

How can you make your organisation and safe space?

It makes all the difference – 5 Star Review from Francis

Francis Wade – a productivity expert and an author weighs in on Lead Your Team To Win and gives it 5 STARS. See his review on Amazon
I enjoyed this book immensely for its authenticity and honesty.

At first, the idea of creating a safe space within a working team or department may seem like a pipe-dream or a play on words. However, the author uses her own experiences as a manager as the laboratory and this is where it excels.

Other books in this genre focus on giving pithy advice but Maxine shares lessons learned on the field, with real people, in actual conversations i.e. where it counts. In this sense, it’s a combination of memoir and business advice book that most professionals just don’t have the courage to write.

This makes for difficult reading at times… be prepared to hear about meetings that didn’t go well, people who left the company and awkward moments that are embarrassing and hard to bear, even second hand. But that’s the cost managers pay when they commit to create a safe space for their employees – it’s a road less traveled. And just as you’d expect, it’s the one that makes all the difference.
Francis Wade

Leah gives Lead Your Team To Win 5 Stars

Anyone who has been in a leadership role knows that it is a journey of self-exploration as much as it one how to positively influence others to action. In ‘Lead your team to win’, Maxine Attong shares her own leadership journey with us and the result is an option for other leaders on how to steer their teams so that each performer is fulfilled in the workplace. Chapter by chapter Maxine guides you through the steps to take to develop and grow the two most critical success factors for team success: Trust and Communication.

As a performance improvement consultant, I am always looking for new tools to support my clients’ goals and the Safe Space can definitely be one of those tools. I don’t think that there is one management tool that will work for everyone, but I do think that leaders need options. They need to find a style that resonates with them and their organization and that gets results for them and their team. This book shows leaders that all this is possible if they are willing to be open, honest and workplace focused.
Leah De Souza

Terry Ann weighs in on Lead Your Team To Win – 5 stars

A new review of my book – Lead Your Team To Win – was posted on Amazon today. See below Terry Ann Wilson gives Lead Your Team To Win – 5 Stars

I purchased this book as I was intrigued by the questions posed to readers in the synopsis. I was keen to find out the author’s approach on bringing out the best of your team, not to mention I was curious about the Safe Space approach. I wanted to find out more about it and how it worked.

I have been going through the book slowly in order to make my notes and fully extract the points from each chapter.

It has been easy to read and easy to follow from chapter to chapter. The author has been able to capture her ideas and experiences and transfer these so that the reader is able to extract them. The author provides a conclusion at the end of each chapter so as to summarise the thoughts discussed throughout which helps to crystalise the learnings from it.

It is clear that the author is genuinely interested in the development of people and provides clear guidance on how to do this through the various experiences related with her team. She does not advocate micro managing people but states the value of follow up to bringing about success.

I particularly enjoyed reading the chapter on Decision Making as it highlighted that we as leaders are the reason why our team members are incapable of making decisions

The author carefully articulates people need “to feel safe so that they can speak, question, state concerns and challenge the status quo”, in order to give off their best; they should be treated with respect. As leaders we need to provide that environment of trust and communication

Whilst there are some aspects of the author’s approach you may not agree with, overall it is an excellent book and one which will have you examining yourself, the way you do things and how you can make changes for improvement.

There are parts of the book which left me shaking my head in agreement or reflecting on some action I had taken in the past and how I can improve for the future.

I would recommend this book not only to anyone who leads teams and is seeking to bring out the best in their team but to anyone who has to manage or work with people.

I have since purchased two additional books to share with my teams leaders
As posted on Amazon by Terry Ann Wilson.

Did you read the book yet? If so can you post a review on Amazon. Thanks!

5 Stars for #LeadYourTeamToWin – Blog 74

Transformation Starts From the Inside Out, October 4, 2014

This review is from: Lead Your Team to Win (Paperback)

As a coach who works who clients in many different dynamics, I experience some leaders of organizations pay “lip” service to their missions and visions. Admittedly leaders are under pressure from different directions and it’s easy to lose themselves. That is why anyone who manages people would benefit from reading this highly-conscious book. It will cause them to reflect on their ability to develop trust and also to question their motives.

Energy Leadership, Copyright 2008, by Bruce Schneider reveals that in the majority of companies, the attitude is “I win and you lose.” Other leadership books tell their readers to “be paranoid.”

Lead Your Team to Win shares how a leader can create a culture of “we all win or we do not play.” It requires trust and honesty from the top down and the bottom up. It is a visionary book that may be ahead of it’s time for average companies and average leaders. However, the leaders who want to create a culture where employees take responsibility and want to come to work and contribute at high levels will benefit from this book.

Cold and Calculating – Blog 66

I am posting John Gibb’s 4 Star review of my new book – Lead Your Team To Win – for those who have not yet read the copy on Amazon.

Your team members are creative and intelligent and want to make a difference; you can give them the permission they need to do this, according to Maxine Attong in this book. Embracing this concept will enable you to shift your leadership style, which will further your own goals and ultimately benefit your team’s performance.

The book describes how the author has created the concept of a safe space and used it as a management tool to facilitate enhanced team performance. The safe space is a room in which team members are free to release emotions, get past negative feelings, and take risks that lead to rewards. What happens in the room stays in the room, so team members can reveal their weaknesses but still leave with their dignity intact. Benefits include:

• Providing a dynamic environment for the free exchange of ideas

• Receiving honest feedback

• Convincing team members that their thoughts and contributions are valued

• Raising the level of trust in the team

• Giving team members shared ownership of the team’s successes and failures

The author writes in a clear and concise manner, so the “safe space” idea is well explained; however, I am not sure I am entirely comfortable with it. Some of the aspects seem a bit too cold and calculating. For example, the author says that some team members may see the safe space as a management trick that allows the leader to extract work, and she goes on the admit, “And they may be right.”

Intrigued that the safe space may be cold and calculating?  Click on the link and register today for our free webinar at

Join me and 5 expert panelists as we discuss the book then you can decide what adjectives you will use to describe the book.

First Review – 4 Stars – Blog 60

What other way can I celebrate 60 days of Blogging than to post John Gibbs’ Review of my new book Lead Your Team To Win – Achieve Optimal Performance by Providing a Safe Space for Employees.

John writes a blog – Leading Business Books – at which he reviews the leading business books that he has read and he is from Australia.  I do not know him, have never met him and am unsure if I ever will.  I consider John more evidence of how connected we all are and that people are always willing to give.   John’s review can be found on Amazon and of course on his blog.  I have included both links for your reading pleasure.

Purchase the book – Lead Your Team To Win on October 3rd to access free ebooks and other downloads

Take the Safe Space Quiz

Register for the Important and Free Webinar

Three out of 5 or 60%

Three outta 5

The 2nd review on Change or Die – The Business Process Improvement Manual – on Amazon was from a self-confessed “experienced business analyst”.  I love this review, even though I want all reviews to be more than 60%.

I like the fact that the analyst clearly identifies our target audience “I recommend this book to the process improvement neophyte. It is an easy read and understandable.”  (S)he also celebrates our methodology, “The book provides a straightforward improvement process with best practices and facilitation techniques.” And from one so experienced the biggest complement of all “If you have never done a process improvement project before this is probably the best step-by-step manual with lots of details and tools.”

The analyst identified 6 omissions that s/ he is disappointed about, from the perspective of an experienced analyst.    S/he thinks that if the book included these points it would have been a “Dynamite book deserving of a 5 star rating.”

S/He is dubious about the price “with these omissions, I believe the book is overpriced.” And then gives up a suggestion “Perhaps one might rationalize the price considering a CD containing various tools accompanies the book.” 

My take

There are many positives in the review.  The book is best practice and targets people who want to do a Business Process Improvement (BPI) but may be challenged to do so.  The book provides the BPI essentials that will make the Team succeed.  If your Team wants to or is going to engage any consultants to do Business Process Improvement in your organization then read the book.  And as for the 6 omitted points, the Process Improvement will still be successful.